Archie,
Welcome. I am linking a very good site from the Cleveland Clinic that has a very good discussion on all 3 major diversions. Pro's and con's. As I have not had any I am not much help beyond this. See:
my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/12546-urinary-reconstruction--diversion
One other observation. However you choose, be sure they do at least 25+ of these a year from other reads. It is a rigorous, complicated surgery and some will steer you to what their expertise is in. Pick what fits you, even if it is a major university or teaching hospital. Whichever you choose, most people appear to adapt. The positive is you are choosing life and the vast majority giving it time do well.
Keep posting as you go. Someone will be able to give insight.
