Deb,
I can only imagine what it must be like to go through this at such a young age, especially with your very young children. Perhaps you've already contacted your local American Cancer Society, but if you haven't it's possibile they could help you with information related to dealing with your very specific situation. Your husbands doctor could refer the two of you or maybe even just one of you (I write that because quite often men don't want to deal with this issue) to a therapist who deals with cancer patients and their families. The ACS also can tell you about support groups that may be available in your area that could help you with all the stress you're feeling, as stress is a very common issue with patients and family members.
This is also all very new to the two of you and it takes time to gather information about this very frightening disease. If you live in a large city (or near one) it's possible you may be near a COMPREHENSIVE CANCER CENTER, and quite often these cancer centers have a CANCER RESOURCE LIBRARY. These libraries have information on hand concerning all different types of cancers, and additionally they have books that can be checked out. Some written by survivors on specific cancers and many others by a variety of authors on many subjects related to cancers. Where I live in Birmingham Alabama there is a CRL and I've found a great deal of help with in the four walls of this library. In addition to having materials I can take home that are mine to keep and are also free, they have the books I mentioned previousely, and they also have had many different programs on key information that cancer patients and their families need to know. It is possible for you to access their web site and email the librarian, and she can send you information regarding your husbands cancer and other issues related to dealing with it as well.
This is how to access the CRL and email Ty. In your search engine type in the following
UAB Health System
This should bring up choices related to the University of Alabama at Birmingham Health System, click on the best choice and when the window opens to their web site scroll down and toward the bottom on the right side of the page you will see where it has a link for
Comprehensive Cancer Center
click on that link and the next window that opens you will find a section that mentions CANCER INFORMATION, and under that title there is a link for the Cancer Resource Library. When you click there and it opens to their page you will be able to get some information right then and there, but you can also contact Ty by email with specific requests and she will do her best to find you information relative to your specific cancer situation and other issues such as support, etc. Once she gathers together the information she will send it to you in the mail, so be sure to include your mailing address. Let me tell you again that this information she sends to you is free of charge, it's part of their program and is funded thru the Comprehensive Cancer Center.
I hope that what I've written will be of some help to you, and know that I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Just as I'm sure you're in the thoughts and prayers of many others you know as well.
God Bless.
Lou Graham
Ps. The library is only open Monday thru Wednesday from 10 AM until 4 PM, so if you don't hear from her but you only emailed on say a wednesday afternoon it could be the following monday before you get any response.