Here is a web page that has a very good summary of the three possible diversions:
my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/12546-urinary-reconstruction--diversion
There is also a lot of personal information on this Forum...use the SEARCH function at the top right side of this
page.
You are probably aware that you may select the diversion that you WANT, but once the urological surgeon actually assesses the situation he may find that another option is necessary. However, once the surgery/recovery is over, patients DO adapt to their new reality and do quite well no matter which diversion they have.
One very important factor is the EXPERTISE of the surgeon. You want to be sure that the one you have selected is an expert in bladder cancer diversions and that he/she has done MANY of the type you chose. Some urologists really are only familiar with one type (the simplest is the ileal conduit) and having them "practice" on you is not a good idea!! Also, someone who is not truly familiar with your selected diversion may try to talk you out of it with comments such as "they are not usually successful in my experience"......rather then for reasons specific to your case. Do not be afraid to discuss this with your surgeon...this is the rest of your life that you are discussing!!!
Wishing you all the best
Sara Anne