Sarah,
Welcome to the forum. We are sorry you have to be here, but glad you found us!
What your doctor said == that since it started off superficial that it should not turn into invasive does sound true to me. BUT you must always be vigilant about going to have the check ups.
Doug's doctor told him to eat lots of cruciferous vegetables: broccoli, cauliflower, brussell sprouts, cabbage. Our son gave Doug a supplement of green tea, so he takes that. Anything healthy can't hurt!
So sorry that your mom is in stage 4 renal failure. That is tough not to feel like you can share what is going on with you with your parents, but I can understand you not wanting to stress them out. I am glad that you have a supportive boyfriend.
As far as the cramping, have you tried AZO (over the counter) -- it is the same as pyridium, just not as strong. That may help your bladder relax. If you feel like you might have an infection, do go back to the doctor. Getting an infection after a TURB is not unheard of for sure. I notice AZO does have an over the counter test for bladder infections, but we have not used them before.
Hugs to you, Sweetie. Let us know how you are doing.
Anita (Doug's wife)