So sorry about your husband's diagnosis. I am even sorrier about the "care" he appears to be getting from the urologist!! IF you feel that the urologist is not answering your questions sufficiently, of providing the level of care your husband deserves, it may be time to find another urologist.
One of the rules of our "Forum Manifesto" here is GET A SECOND OPINION. Bladder cancer is not to be fooled with...with the correct treatment and oversight it is often highly curable. For example, I was diagnosed with CIS in 2008 and am still here and, so far, cancer-free. Part of my diagnosis was a CT-urogram to assure that there was no cancer anywhere else in the urinary tract or kidneys, and one is to be scheduled every five years.
As for your husband's back pain, it should definitely be mentioned to the doctor. For what it is worth, my CIS symptoms did not disappear until after the
first series of BCG treatments.
If you are interested in finding a good place for a second opinion, or for treatment, our Home Page has a guide to places with special expertise in bladder cancer diagnosis and treatment:
bladdercancersupport.org/bladder-cancer-help/resources/treatment-center-finder
Also, if you tell us where you are located geographically, some of our members may have suggestions for you. It is critical that your husband receives the very best treatment available...so many urologists are specialists in prostate issues and are really not as current in the treatment of bladder cancer as they should be.
Please let us know how he is doing
Sara Anne