Badblad,
Now that Sara Anne has given away all of my secrets I imagine I shouldn't have much to say but I will not let that stop me.
I have an Indiana and it has served me well since 06. No band aide needed my stoma is in my naval and another one of my secrets. As for the different types of diversion the neo and Indiana have to be trained by that I mean you will be on an emptying schedule and will add time each week until they are trained. Most of us can tell when they are full I feel a sensation of fullness it is not the same as having a full bladder but I know when I have to go. Also I know that two glasses of tea mean I need to make a stop soon, somethings do not change. There are pros and cons with all of the diversions and what you would be offered would depend on the location of your cancer and the skill set of your surgeon.
As for a clinical trial make sure that is what serves you the best. Many times the standard treatment is the best answer. Is your main goal to save the bladder or your life? You may not face that question but if you are advised the bladder needs to go and you are investigating clinical trials to save it it is a question that needs to be contemplated. There are many interesting things under investigation and we all hope they will find answers but they are still in the trial and error stage. I personally have taken part in two clinical trials so I know from the school of hard knocks that you have to do your homework and ask the hard questions. Also be aware not all clinical trials are offered at all locations they may only be offered in a few locations world wide. Here is a link to our clinical trial page for further reading on the subject.
bladdercancersupport.org/bladder-cancer-help/information/clinical-trials
I hope this helps you a bit and I know you will have a million questions know we may not have all the answers but we are here for you.