Beckey,
I can understand that this has shaken both of you to the core.Though it is rare to go from non invasive to mets it can happen as you know only to well.
When I was going through chemo I remember telling a therapist that I didn't know how to go forward, not knowing what the future held for me. And she asked me what would I do differently if I knew, and I have given that question a lot of thought.
The first thing I did was make the hard decisions so my family would not have to make them in a time of stress. A trip to my lawyer gave me a great feeling of relief and to this day I believe we should all do so as a gift to those we love.
The second decision I made was that the only thing I could give my loved ones that could never be taken away is memories. And I have taken every chance to do that and it was the best decision I have ever made as it ended up being the biggest gift I ever gave myself. I am a very lucky woman I am years out, but still see each day as a gift.
Beckey we have seen people who have surprised their doctors and have had more time than they had predicted, people are not statistics. A lot will depend on his response to the chemo. I am sure nothing I have said here will help you or make you feel any better, but I wish with all my heart I had the words that could. The reason you have not gotten a response to your post till now is that our family here wishes the same thing.
But this I can promise you if you wish to become part of our forum family we will be here for you no matter where this journey takes you. Between us we have been through a lot and will be happy to answer any questions we can. This is a place you can throw temper tantrums, and say what you feel without worry. None of us here can predict the future but we can offer you support and caring no matter what the future holds.
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