This is the time for a second opinion, AT A PLACE THAT SPECIALIZES IN BLADDER CANCER and that can offer options with regard to types of surgery. I know of no "alternative" treatments that have any effect whatsoever at this point. The advice you are getting here is right-on. You need to find a place that does LOTS of these surgeries. For-profit CTA is, IMHO, not one of those places. If you can do it, places such as Memorial Sloan Kettering, Johns-Hopkins, USC, MD Anderson...and there are dozens of others depending upon where you live. Check out the Treatment Finder on our front page.
While time is of the essence, you DO have time to seek a second opinion (which may very well agree completely with your current uro...but you will feel much better knowing that).
We are all with you in this!!
Sara Anne