7 years 9 months ago - 7 years 9 months ago#43661by CatherineH
Oh Danielle... my heart hurts for you and your brave husband. I am deeply sorry that he has been through so many complications, and I know you are going through it all right there beside him. He is truly a fighter and is an amazing man (but you already know that!)
Thank you for sharing the wisdom of your experience with others about the importance of not ignoring early warning signs, and about the value of optimism. It makes a such a difference to read those words from real people like you. You are very kind to offer such personal insight about his case not being typical. You are a true "care" giver.
Please know that you will never be a "misery" here. You are part of our family and we are so hoping that he will have a turn for the better very soon. I hope for encouraging news on Wednesday... and as you have already wisely said, we must always have that hope.
Hugs to you both,
Best wishes... Catherine
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TURBT 1/21/10 at age 55
Dx: T2aN0M0 Primary Bladder Adenocarcinoma
Partial Cystectomy 2/25/10
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7 years 9 months ago - 7 years 9 months ago#43653by danielle
Thanks Mike, I appreciated your reply..Just felt so distressed when I posted.
We have always been so optimystic with this illness...We have had 4 good years and happy times together with our children and 6 little grandchildren...inspite of all that was going on...
It's not an easy passage and I must stress to other newbies here, that they must always look on the optimystic side.What has happened to my husband is not a common thing to happen, so please don't take his case history as an example..He ignored the warning signs that something was wrong...For over a year and a half he kept the secret of the blood in his urine...
Take each day as it comes and love your life for what you have..Until today, my husband is optimystic and I shall make sure he stays that way..I had to fight with him this afternoon, not to climb the ladder to change a burnt out light bulb...Having hope and strength of those loved ones around you makes it all bearable...
I was feeling very low today, and as I can't show him what I am feeling I turned to my friends here...We all have a breaking point when uncontrollable sadness creeps in, but holding out for your loved one must be the priority...Your strength supports them...
Again thanks for listening
Mike we shall be at the Oncologist on Wednesday and then see what the future holds...I shall post after the visit to the Onco and let you know...Thanks.