× Welcome click the New Topic button to post

Cowardly Urologist

8 years 2 weeks ago #42584 by upnorth
"Support Group" I remember telling everyone that I won't need any support group I will get through this on my own. :angry:

Boy how wrong I was, and how happy I was the day I found this site. Sometimes we all need a little help. Even if its just a sympathetic ear. I am the "Original Tough Guy" but when it finally soaked in that I had cancer, I sat down and bawled like a child in my wife's arms. Even as wonderful of a person as she is, she alone could not help me through this.

We are both grateful, and humbled, by the help, and kindness of everyone on this site.

Mark & Heidi

Age 55
Diagnosed BC 12/20/2011 Ta No Mo 0a Non-Invasive At age 48
"Please don't cry because it is over..... Smile because it happened!" {Dr. Seuss} :)

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

8 years 2 weeks ago #42583 by eddiek
Scot,

Welcome to the site, but sorry that you needed to find the site. It looks like you've received good support from others on the site.

I wanted to share the story of my wife Cynthia's experience with her first urologist. When she was diagnosed with muscle invasive bladder cancer in August, 2004, the urologist called me from the OR.

He told me that he couldn't be sure until the test results were returned, but it looked like she had muscle invasive bladder cancer. He then left for summer vacation.

I had to tell Cynthia what the urologist told me as she was recovering from the procedure. When he did return from vacation, we did meet with him, but we had already made the decision to seek treatment at another hospital.

Please keep us posted following your appointment with Dr. Lamm.


Ed K.

Edward J. Kinsella
American Bladder Cancer Society
Board of Directors - Secretary/Clerk

& Caregiver

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

8 years 2 weeks ago #42582 by CatherineH
Believe me.... you do NOT want a group hug right now! I've been out pulling lots of weeds, mulching, and raking in near 95% humidity.

Just taking an ice water break! Back to work! Yucky (me and mulching!)

Best wishes... Catherine
Forum Moderator Team

TURBT 1/21/10 at age 55
Dx: T2aN0M0 Primary Bladder Adenocarcinoma
Partial Cystectomy 2/25/10
Vanderbilt Medical Center
Nashville, TN

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

8 years 2 weeks ago #42581 by mmc
Yay!! Everybody meant everything in the best possible way. Group {{{{HUG}}}}}
All better.

:D :: :woohoo:

Age 54
10/31/06 dx CIS (TisG3) non-invasive (at 47)
9/19/08 TURB/TUIP dx Invasive T2G3
10/8/08 RC neobladder(at 49)
2/15/13 T4G3N3M1 distant metastases(at 53)
9/2013 finished chemo -cancer free again
1/2014 ct scan results....distant mets
2/2014 ct result...spread to liver, kidneys, and lymph...

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

8 years 2 weeks ago #42580 by Cholla Bay
No no! I did not take it as criticsm at all. Your words are wise and profound. I know better than to be angry. I am never angry...until now. Maybe it is best I had this experience so I have an outlet for all of my anger. Without this experience, I doubt I would have found this forum and Dr. Lamm. Maybe this is the Karma thing I have heard people speak of B)

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

8 years 2 weeks ago - 8 years 2 weeks ago #42579 by CatherineH
Scot... please do not take my comment about being angry as a criticism. I was coming from my own personal perspective of how becoming angry and stressed affects me. It generally causes my fibromyalgia to flare up which has very negative results on my body. I've had to learn to "let it go" or else.

On the other hand, anger can be a great motivator. I'm just glad you are seeing a renowned bladder cancer specialist!

Best wishes... Catherine
Forum Moderator Team

TURBT 1/21/10 at age 55
Dx: T2aN0M0 Primary Bladder Adenocarcinoma
Partial Cystectomy 2/25/10
Vanderbilt Medical Center
Nashville, TN

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

  • Not Allowed: to create new topic.
  • Not Allowed: to reply.
  • Not Allowed: to add Files.
  • Not Allowed: to edit your message.
Moderators: Cynthiaeddieksara.anne

Users

Total Online: 0 Users and 184 Guests 

Statistics

Today Total Opened: 0 Today Total Answered: 7 Latest User: Beloved66
Yesterday Total Opened: 1 Yesterday Total Answered: 5
Total Posts: 53921 Total Subjects: 7069 Total Users: 6598