Missy
I am so sorry for you and your father. This is indeed a very tough diagnosis. As I read your post, I know every emotion you have shared with us. As a caregiver, I am sure you know that you have so much more emotion than even the cancer patient.
Your feelings are on a roller coaster now, and that is very normal. I hope your family is understanding. Please engage them. They need to feel included and not, "looking in from the outside." Even your young children will understand if you sit down and tell them everything. They just want to be a part of you.
As I have said before, the caregivers and family seem to have it harder than the patient at times. They can only give so much and they feel as if they can never do enough.
Your dad is in a tough place right now, but medical technology and the human body's ability to fight can produce amazing things. I know the reality is against this sort of optimism, but the time left should be filled with hope and love and celebration of life.
As a loving daughter, you know the importance of family and dignity, keep your father in the whole family. This illness is a part of life, and the whole family wants to share in it.
My prayers are with you and your family. Please feel free to call upon with us anytime!
George