Mike,
I hope he changes his mind soon too. This whole thing with his doctor stinks and sends up red flags with me. I don't understand how he can't see it or maybe he just doesn't want to see it especially since the doctor has come up with a way to avoid the surgery.
His doctor has also warned him from seeking information online. He says that there is too much information, it is overwhelming and some of it incorrect. I do see that to a point but being limited to a few websites your doctor "approves" of seems a bit much.
No one WANTS the surgery. Heck, I don't want him to have the surgery, but if it will save his life then you have to do what you have to do.
My first thought about the Chemo was how much damage will THAT do? Second, was I don't recall anyone saying that stage 2 could be treated with chemo/radiation alone. Or what if it doesn't help and the cancer apreads further during the time they may be wasting on chemo/radiation? I've been to tons of websites staying up to midnight or later every night looking up information.
I've read that even if they do manage to kill the cancer with Chemo sometimes the bladder still has to go because of the damage. I didn't know that it may prevent the possibility of cystecomy/neobladder in the future.
Even though he seems irritated with me I'm going to keep trying to get him to a second opinion at MD Anderson. It was like talking to a brick wall last night. He kept repeating that he appreciated what I was doing. No dialogue, nothing. Sometimes I wonder if he still thinks of me as a child instead of a 40 year old woman.
Thank you so much for all your help and advice!