Yup - I've got a great wife. Also a cancer survivor, it's been a rough couple of years. We figure we'll write a book "Cancer from Both Sides". At least we're going to volunteer with local support groups once everyting settles down. We've had some tough times but still are very fortunate in the big picture. Life is good! I appreciate your help and I'll post again when there's some new info.
An update from my re-staging surgery at UM. Cancer is back in the bladder, possibly in the protate also. We are so glad we went ot UM to have this procedure, I'm sure my outcome will be much better. I go back on Friday to get the path results and discuss the scheduling of the RC. My doc said if I was 75 he'd try the BCG, but being 52 the bladder removal is the way to go. Hopefully the path results will be positive so I won't need to do a course of chemo first. Oh well, anything to take of those nasty little mutant cells. Thanks for everyone's support and kind words.
Andy, I just started following your thread. I was in a somewhat similar situation (decision wise) as you last October, my URO was a great guy and I liked him a lot. But, Mike and others suggested seeing a good specialist. I did and I'm glad I spent the time researching it. I decided on the RC and it worked out great for me. My wife and I had many discussions about the course of action beforehand.
I wish you the best and believe your in good hands now.