Rudy,
I was in the hospital 12 days after but that was due to an ileus (intestines didn't wake up properly). My strong advise to avoid what happened to me is: WALK, WALK, WALK after the surgery. At least 3 times a day whether you feel like it or not. Have someone come to the hospital to make you walk. I think average time in the hospital is 6-7 days after neobladder. Surgery time is 7-10 hours. Mine was 7.5 hours.
Once the ileus problem cleared up, I felt pretty good. You will wake up from with one or more drainage tubes, tubes in your ureters and a catheter in. Most likely a morphine pump will be a good friend for the time in the hospital. The tubes in the ureters are to bypass the neobladder until it has time to heal up and can retain fluid. They will flush the neobladder four to six times a day by pumping water in and drawing it back out.
I was spending time online at home within days of getting home but not much time. I had no problem going up and down stairs to go from my bedroom to the living room and kitchen areas. Started walking outside after getting the catheter out but I wouldn't go far. I would just walk a bit away from the house, then back the other way past the house, and then back to the house. Didn't want to go too far for a while but needed to get out and walk.
I didn't have much problem with food but others have found they have new food sensitivities. Bowels will be a problem for a little while. You will lose some weight from the surgery but mine all came back (I was hoping it wouldn't).
It's 4-6 months before feeling fully up to speed again but that doesn't mean you can't do anything for all that time. I was traveling on business 6-8 weeks after getting out of the hospital (can't remember exactly but I know it was in that range).
Pat's advise is important and it leads to a key question I would advise. "How many of these neobladder surgeries do you do in a year?" That is a key question. You want someone with LOTS of experience. The more experience, the fewer the complications.
You also want someone with lots of "nerve sparing" surgery when they remove the prostate. That makes a big difference for later when you'd want to resume intimate activities.
That's the main thing I can think of right now.
Mike
Age 54
10/31/06 dx CIS (TisG3) non-invasive (at 47)
9/19/08 TURB/TUIP dx Invasive T2G3
10/8/08 RC neobladder(at 49)
2/15/13 T4G3N3M1 distant metastases(at 53)
9/2013 finished chemo -cancer free again
1/2014 ct scan results....distant mets
2/2014 ct result...spread to liver, kidneys, and lymph...