Hi Ron,
Sorry to hear about the diagnosis, and congrats with finishing the chemo regimen.
There are some good discussion about life with a neobladder in response to a man's questions, to be found here in this thread:
blcforum.com/cgi-bin/forum/YaBB.pl?num=1164662492
There are lots more similar discussions on the forum, check under 'invasive bladder cancer' as well. Don't hesitate to contact someone privately if they seem to have the answers you're looking for.
Please take a look at Linda Weyand's information that is posted on top of the 'invasive blc' section as well, she gives a lot of good tips on the different types of diversions.
The website also covers many aspects of cystecomy, have you looked at these pages:
blcwebcafe.org/cystectomy.asp
Any type of bladder removal surgery comes with its own set of challenges and noboby will tell you its easy, but..it is definitely survivable, the human spirit is amazingly resillient and we are stronger than we can ever imagine. There's a definite learning curve, but you'll find it's not as bad as you probably expect.
I hope you're going to a good place that does lots of neobladders as experience counts for a lot in this game.
Take care,
Wendy