My Father

13 years 2 weeks ago #15998 by Mark Rice
My Father was created by Mark Rice
Hello all,

I hate to introduce myself under these circumstances. My father has just been diagnosed with invasive bladder cancer. We've been told that removal of the bladder and prostate are necessary and will be the first steps in treatment. Still waiting on MRI testing to find out if it has metastisized. My father has always been emotionally challenged - things have gotten worse upon diagnosis. Regardless, just wanted to reach out and possibly learn about some positive stories from those that have experienced similar situations - God knows I need it right now.

God bless,
Mark

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13 years 2 weeks ago #15999 by tate
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hold on Mark -the calvary is on the way. I am still new to all this and my situation is different but these folks are GREAT and always seem to know what to say to help others get through these very stressful times. What I can offer is my prayers for you and your family.
Tate

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13 years 2 weeks ago #16000 by Mark Rice
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That is very kind of you Tate. I wish you the very best as well. I'm thankful to have come across this site, it seems like a great source of information and inspiration.

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13 years 2 weeks ago #16001 by momof4
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Hi Mark,

I am glad to see that you are being proactive about your fathers diagnosis. You are a good caring son. Can you tell me what part of the country your father is being treated? How old is your Dad? I can tell you right off that second opinions are always recommended especially when dealing with a cancer diagnosis, that may require surgery. We can direct you to a top hospital, oncologist, uro-oncologist,& surgeon. It is best to have a team working on all the aspects of this disease.

Karen

Caregiver for my Wonderful Husband Angelo, who has Metastatic Bladder Cancer.

Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.

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13 years 2 weeks ago #16002 by julieann
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Mark,

I know it is hard (my Mom is currently in stage IV), but you have to try not to worry too much until you get those test results. Many here have success stories. First things first....make sure ou have a top notch doctor who is knowledgable about bladder cancer. Second, make sure the doc is aware your fathers emotional state. You can make a more informed decision once the tests come in and people here will be able to offer more suggestions at that time. Again, I know the waiting really STINKS, but try and stay positive for your father's sake. Take care.

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13 years 2 weeks ago #16003 by Mark Rice
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Many thanks Karen; just trying to stay positive throughout but it seems everytime we visit the doctor, the news keeps getting worse. We fear spread to the bone at this point as he experiences immense pain from the groin and leg area. Regardless, I am in Toronto, my father is 67 and has a long history of smoking and excessive drinking. He has been urinating blood for over six months now, possibly longer. We were assigned a urologist by the ER doctor; she seems quite knowledgeable and personable yet I agree that second opinions can come in handy. Any further thoughts Karen?

My best,
Mark

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