Barb,
I hope you realize that everyone who is commenting here has your best interest at heart. It's wonderful that you like your doctor and I'm sure comforting to you, however, it is the skill and experience you need for treatment. It is great when you can find skill, experience and a great bedside manner in one doctor but those are tough to find. Quite often the best ones are so busy fighting cancer that they invest little time in social skills...but they get the job done and done well.
It is great that you have found this website...it is truely a wealth of information, and so many on the forum open their hearts to you, and will help you in whatever way they can. The doctor can share information with you but who knows more about how the patient survives bladder cancer than those of us who have gone on that journey. It can be a very rough ride but we are here to help you. Please stay in contact. I hope you have the energy and time to research your options and especially get a 2nd and possibly 3rd opinion. Take care, your new friend, Melodie
Melodie, Indy Pouch, U.W.Medical Center, Seattle, Dr. Paul H. Lange & Jonathan L. Wright