My husband was diagnosed with state IV bladder cancer with metastasis to both lungs in April. He went through 3 cycles of gcarbo but the last 2 cycles were really hard on him, resulting in 7and10 day hospitalizations. The doctor has decided that the chemo, which was slowing but not stopping or reversing progression, is just too tough on him. This is breaking my heart. He is down to 135 lbs (he is 6'1" tall) and barely eats enough to stay upright. We are going to talk to the doctor on Thursday to see if he thinks that Eric will ever be strong enough to have treatment again. If, as expected, the answer is no, we are going to contact hospice. I am so scared of whats going to happen. I am so scared he will be in pain. I don't know what I can do to help him right now other than the daily necessities as he has totally emotionally shut down. Does anyone have some words of wisdom for me?