When I had my recurrence (two years after my first round of bladder cancer) I was getting big clumpy blood clots and sometimes lots and lots of blood. Other times, not so much. Mine had just barely become muscle invasive at that point.
Odds are, yes, the cancer is back. But that is all it means so far. Thanks for posting the progress. The amount of blood isn't really a huge indicator of anything other than there is bleeding. The tests and the look are going to tell the story he and you need to know.
My money is on "it's not too late but he needs to get this done this time and get the thing out". That's what I'm hoping for. Unless somebody proves otherwise, that is the plan.
He knows you are there for him. That means a lot. Facing this together with a loved one is way easier. Talk... Real men do talk!
Let him know he can tell you anything and not to worry about you. You'd be surprised how many of us worry about what to say to others so we don't freak them out.
Keep us posted!
Thanks!
Mike