my husband has stage 3

thank you how is the ileal different from the others if my husband was to get it how could i help me as a caregiver helene

Hi hwg
I had my bladder removed in 08 and have an ileal conduit. I wouldn't trade it for the others because I don't think I could make it through all of the training you have to do with the others. It all depends on you and your doc. Good luck

my husband will be having his bladder removed and his options are to have the indiana pouch neo bladder or ileal conduit what do you think are good options

mike thanks for the good advice we have already gotten closer and i have a positive attitude the more that i am understanding the more calm i have become thanks helene

Hwg,

In the overall scheme of things, it doesn't take all that long to get used to. Sure, there are pads and Depends and it's a pain in the butt for a while, but once he is past that stage it seems like a fairly short time. Honestly, it is frustrating and seems like a long time while one goes through it, but it's worth it long term.

It's always harder (emotionally) on the front end. Once you're in the middle of it, it's just a matter of dealing with it and keeping a positive attitude. After that, it's fairly easy. He'll be telling other people here about his experiences and helping them to see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, that some amount of fear on the front end is to be expected, and that it's all worth it in the end.

You have each other through all of this and many of our experiences have shown that couples get even closer through all of this. I know it did for my wife and me and I've read the same from others. When you face this together as a team, it just works.

Mike

diesel doc
i agree with you,i have been getting a great deal of advice i know my husband has maybe thats why hes so calm i dont understand why he seems to not be as worried as i am but i am thinking positively and my husband has been explaining the options to me. i have been reading the responses he has gotten and i am just concerned that the bladder replacement takes so long to adjust to