Pet Peeves on Support Group

Well put G!! This is not a competition. If it was i would rather be last

cancer is cancer is cancer.

Wow!

But we don't have pink ribbons.

If it makes them feel better, or helps them in any way..... they can have it.

I am happy to be alive and if I didn't have a Headline cancer..... so what!
I'm not showing my scar to anyone anyway.

My dad has told his friends that I had a slight cancer issue. I think it makes him worry less about me. And that is a very good thing indeed. At 90 years, he does not need to have another thing to worry about.

Keep your chin up and remember..... In the end, We Are ALL Survivors!

George

I suppose every cancer patient has a different journey both mental, emotional and physical, your body your cancer regardless where it's at, it's yours and you own it. No one can minimize it but you. Are there "better" cancers to have? Sure but it's still that nasty word CANCER. Everyday you wake up is a blessed new day to conquer new challenges of this thing we call life.....good luck.

I started attending a support group facilitated by The American Cancer Society/Hope Club (used to be known as Gilda's Club). First few weeks were great, met a nice group of people at different stages, all but me were breast cancer.

Then last week we had a "new" member (she comes on and off apparently, none of us there remembered her) so she asked the ice breaker question "What brings you here?" I'm sure she's a nice person outside of cancer, and might be coming from a place of anger (just ended chemo for breast cancer, cue ball bald, and all sorts of side effects), she still went out of her way to make me feel "not cancerous" enough! Like it's my fault that I won't have systemic chemo. It's my fault my tumor was smaller than hers and in a different place.

Does anyone else ever get that static? That because we might not look "cancer sick" as soon as they do, somehow we're a lesser cancer?

Heather
Diagnosed 5/25/2016
First cysto and TURBT 5/23/2016
Nephrostomy placement 5/24/2016
Second cysto and TURBT 6/20/2016
Papillary urothelial carcinoma, mostly low grade
No stromal invasion, no metastasis
Original tumor size (by CT): 7.3 cm x 4.8 cm x 4.8 cm
Starting BCG 8/21/2016