John, I think that you are mixing up stage and grade. A "high grade" tumor is one in which the cells are rapidly dividing and this type is especially dangerous since they are much more likely to spread (metastasize) than "low grade" tumors.
"Stage" (0, 3, 4 etc) refers to how much the cancer has already spread. A stage 0, for example, is still completely localized in the original site; stage 4 is one that has metastasized and spread into the lymph nodes and into other sites of the body away from the original site.
Every cancer starts as stage 0....the one localized place where something starts to go haywire. As time goes by, and the cancer grows, it becomes stage 1 and then on. No tumor "starts" as a stage 4. When someone has a newly diagnosed cancer, and it is stage 4, that cancer has been growing undetected for a long time. It did not just suddenly appear....although it may have just been found, it has been there for quite a while.
No one can tell you what the future holds based on the size of your initial tumor. The only thing that might have happened is that there are already other tumors someplace. I am not saying that to scare you....we all have that possibility. This is why the doctors do things like CT scans and many other tests so that that can do their best to detect such possibilities early.
You may be confusing the fact that bladder cancer has the nasty habit of coming back...ie, new tumors showing up in the bladder after some have been removed, with metasteses where the original tumor has already spread.
Right now, all you can say, is that you HAD bladder cancer tumors and that they were removed. GONE. And we will hope that they stay that way...just as they have for most of us.
Sara Anne