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Webcafe Chat room
I brought this subject up months ago, I was told that they were working on a chatroom. I think it would be very beneficial. There are times when I am online, and would love to chat with a member who is also online. This is especially true late at night, when everyone is sleeping, and it is too late to call anyone. I know there are others on the forum who are also awake odd hours. Is a Chatroom in the works? Instant chat I think could help so many new members…I remember the panic I felt when my husband was first diagnosed. To be able to contact a member to ask a quick question, say hi, or just vent, etc… There are also times when I don’t want to start a new topic, and wait for hours sometimes for a response, but would love to engage in an actual conversation. I know there are other chats I could join online, but they are not subject specific. I would rather talk to others going through similar situations as I am.
What are your thoughts? Karen
Caregiver for my Wonderful Husband Angelo, who has Metastatic Bladder Cancer.Life isn’t about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.
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Yes Karen you’re right there are only so many you can put on on your buddy list and I prefer Windows Messenger over all of them but I would still have plenty of members here to chat with as I don’t know everyone. So folks that are using Windows Messenger would have to post their screen names say like in Chit Chat. But this board powered by SMF if you look at the bottom of the page it takes you to another page where it shows you other features that SMF has. I belong to a poker forum that uses SMF and the girl has the chat room and it is quite nice. But this all depends on what the Admins or Admin wants on his or her site. Joe ;)
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Cynthia, I will participate if you’ll have me….. Ginger Beane
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Hi Gang,
Ginger, thanks! and thanks for your kind words Maria…I’m glad you are planning to stay active, you too, Joe!
Jeff, thank you for caring enough to go through the trouble of finding software. As Cynthia said, it’s already been put together. Mostly with Joomlah! features (i think).
Since any forum is all about its members, I’m happy to see so many good people active here.
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Thanks,Cynthia. I would be happy to participate as I intend to stay active in this forum.
BC diagnosed 01/2007
Cystoscopes and Miomyacin in 2007
R/C ilial conduit 04/27/2008
[quote author=momof4 link=topic=2096.msg15589#msg15589 date=1208265769]
Thanks for who you are and what you do,
Karen
[/quote]I second that Karen. Wendy, I could not have come as far as I have on my journey thus far without this site, thank you very much for your efforts……….and your husband and Cynthia.
Maria xxxx
Joe,
I will put you on the list of testers for the site. In answer to your question about how the forum will shape up. As far as I know from Joris who we hired to be out web developer it should be very simular and we plan to have the same boards as things stand now.
Thanks for your offer
Cynthia Kinsella
T2 g3 CIS 8/04
Clinical Trial
Chemotherapy & Radiation 10/04-12/04
Chemotherapy 3/05-5/05
BCG 9/05-1-06
RC w/umbilical Indiana pouch 5/06
Left Nephrectomy 1/09
President American Bladder Cancer SocietyCynthia I like to be part of this since I been here over a year and are you going to the keep Simple Machine Forum (SMF) or are you going to change boards also. Joe ;)
Jeff, you may have missed that the forum will be moving in the near future to the American Bladder Cancer Societie’s new website. The site is being build as a full service social network site as well as an information portal. We are getting ready to invite a small group to move in and test the site before it goes public if you would like to be part of this just let me know. Two of the site features will be chat rooms as well as instant messaging.
Cynthia Kinsella
T2 g3 CIS 8/04
Clinical Trial
Chemotherapy & Radiation 10/04-12/04
Chemotherapy 3/05-5/05
BCG 9/05-1-06
RC w/umbilical Indiana pouch 5/06
Left Nephrectomy 1/09
President American Bladder Cancer Society
Oops, here is the chatroom site: http://www.zbitinc.com/default.aspx
Jeff
BC diagnosed 01/2007
Cystoscopes and Miomyacin in 2007
R/C ilial conduit 04/27/2008
Here is a Chatroom Download site. It looks very affordable if I am understanding it. For unlimited chatroom one advanced program with lots of bells and whistles is a little over $200. I don’t know how this would be linked to this room, et cet, but I thought I would pass on the information.
Jeff
BC diagnosed 01/2007
Cystoscopes and Miomyacin in 2007
R/C ilial conduit 04/27/2008Hi Wendy , Joe, Karen, Jeff, and Connie,
Wendy, will we see you and Joris on a episode of HOUSE HUNTERS TAKES US TO FRANCE!!
That would be excellent!!!!
This sounds great!! I’m HAPPY!!!
Ginger
It would be great to have a chat room on this website. I am a member of a professional site that has a chatroom. Anyone can open it up. I am sure if it is a site-generated chat room there wouldn’t be many problems with troublemakers.
BC diagnosed 01/2007
Cystoscopes and Miomyacin in 2007
R/C ilial conduit 04/27/2008
[quote author=momof4 link=topic=2096.msg15592#msg15592 date=1208269116]
I have family in Alsace Lorraine, Urbes and Fellerling to be exact. My times there are some of my fondest memories. The countryside, and vinyards were breathtaking. My family (maternal side) goes back to the 1600’s in Fellering. Amazing…
[/quote]Ah..the Alsace area, yes. The best wines are close by, Bourgogne, Cote d’Or, Pinot Noir…I like them red and strong.
Our little house is in the Limousin, SW France, just above the Dordogne area, where the prehistoric cave paintings are. There are many beautiful things to see, I’m a history buff and the churches in the area date from the crusades. 11th century. France is huge, we’ve been all over by now and are very happy to have found a place we could afford. Any further south and prices triple.
[quote author=momof4 link=topic=2096.msg15592#msg15592 date=1208269116]
I am glad that you are trying to stop and smell the flowers. It is hard to slow down sometimes, when we slow down that means we have to think instead of do. That is a tough one for redheads in particular (I am speaking from personal experience here) It may help to figure out what it is you don’t want to confront. Then you can name it, claim it, and dump it once and for all. [/quote]I’m slow enough Karen, with this ongoing fatigue that flattens me quite often, but yes, I had to confront some “stuff.” I had some therapy which helped a LOT. When I told her I had always expected to die young, she said “of course,” since my father died (cancer) when I was 8. That was so awful, I vowed that I would be the first of the 4 sisters to die so I wouldn’t have to experience the death of a family member (I’m the youngest of the 4). Losing my sister was a mind blower, and getting older than she got made me cry all day, when I turned 48.
So…there it was…a reason, and it made sense. Perhaps it was easier to plan on dying young than plan for an actual future, or survive another family member. Depression rears its ugly head no matter how cushy things are, but at least the episodes pass now, instead of rule life for months at a time. Bad days are to be expected but not months in bed. Thank goodness for the laptop, which has always provided me a way to contribute to life even when I couldn’t get up!
Take care,
Wendy
[quote author=fearandfight link=topic=2096.msg15602#msg15602 date=1208283257]
Wendy that house sounds really nice especially being by the water. Sounds like it will be a good place for you and Joris to get away and get back in touch with eachother. To me it would be like the honeymoon we never had my wife and I got married young and they said it wouldn’t last and here we are 31 yrs later. [/quote]Hi Joe,
You never had a honeymoon in 31 yrs? awww…you should do something special, soon. If you can make it over to Europe, you’ve got friends here.They said Joris and I wouldn’t last either, he was 22, I was 36 and 3x divorced by that time! But we just passed the 16 yr mark and have never felt closer. We eloped in Las Vegas in ’98 and never had a honeymoon together, so yes, this will be it! 2 whole months…that will never happen again so we’re going to relish it. Yes, the water is important to me, to us. We live on a boat all these years now, but can’t swim in Holland, too cold all the time, at least for me. I want to be literally submerged in the water, not just floating on it.
[quote author=fearandfight link=topic=2096.msg15602#msg15602 date=1208283257]
Right now I feel like I am in limbo I got rid of the cancer for now but inside I am depressed at times first because your life changes as you get older <> Well take care ladies and keep the faith. Oh almost forgot Wendy the homepage looks very nice now and I like the layout. Joe ;)
[/quote]I’m glad you like the new layout. There’s still much tweaking, updating and work to be done…it’s a never-ending project but one close to our hearts. If you like the new layout of WebCafe, chances are you’ll like Cynthia’s new site for this forum. The same guy designed them.
I am sorry you feel that ‘limbo’ feeling. I can relate. It’s like my “black-hole future” feelings, and yes, it’s depressing and maybe even a sign of clinical depression. I started on an antidepressant after my sister died, it helped me survive that worst time in my life. Prozac, it was. It got me through my own dx and surgery, too, I probably couldn’t have done it (you know me-and my phobias). I switched from Prozac to Effexor to help the hot flashes from induced menopause, but that was a bad move. When I finally quit Effexor I had horrible withdrawal symptoms for about 8 months…yikes. Prozac doesn’t cause that problem, you can just get off of it without the misery. I think Effexor is for life because it’s impossible to stop. Who can spare 8 months recovering from withdrawal? It’s a luxury I don’t want to ever experience again.
I’m not an advocate of antidepressants ever since that awful period of withdrawal (I look forward to cocktail hour, though), but there are always exceptions. Cancer itself is depressing! Not to mention the physical changes surgery brings. My treatments caused me to gain 60 lbs in the first year; that plus having one boob should have killed our marriage right there, as treatments had killed my libido. But thankfully Joris is not focused on outward appearances and there’s more to love and marriage than sex, and of course more ways to express our love and desire than just the old missionary position, eh?
As always, the best to you and your wife. Take care, Joe and thanks for your ongoing, loyal participation on the forum.
Wendy
Cynthia,
I would love to be one of the first to test this out! I think it is awesome…Let me know if you need any help.
Thanks,
Karen
Caregiver for my Wonderful Husband Angelo, who has Metastatic Bladder Cancer.Life isn’t about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.
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