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thank you everyone! i would just like to offer everyone who has said such loving words to me and my sister to log on to virtual-memorials and put in deborah stevens name! it may show a little bit about how much my mom is missed! it might even be somewhere for anyone out there to use as a place to give a little memorial to those you may have lost!
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Or… you can link there directly:
Deborah Rose Stevens * May 4, 1958 – December 2, 2007
Nice site and very touching memorial. May we all be as loved and as missed.
Zach
“Standing on my Head”––my chemo journal
T3a Grade 4 N+M0
RC at USC/Norris June 23, 2006 by Dr. John Stein
Thank you every one for coming to my moms site! I relize I was having a very sad day and the one thing that gets me motivated is going to a site that I can still help my mommy in some way! I took offense to something that wasent intended the way I took it, but I have those horrible days when I just get so mad!!! I dont understand why this is happening! I shouldent have gotten mad at anyone at this site, especially because of all the love and support everyone shows here! But thank you again everyone for your loving thoughts, hopefully one day I can express more of the loving feeling I feel for all of you out there! I will keep reading and keep everyone in my heart and thoughts and hopefully it might get easier to share some words of what I am going through!
I was also confused about the site Virtual Memories but glad we know about it now.
It is a wonder memorial which I visited this morning.Clara
Caretaker of husband, Bob.
Stage IV
Diagnosed Jan, 2007
Cheryl,
I went to the Virtual Memorials Site today. You should be very proud of your mother. She was truely loved. What a great legacy she left with all of those grandchildren. The music was great, and I openly cried while reading and listening.
My best to you,
Karen
Caregiver for my Wonderful Husband Angelo, who has Metastatic Bladder Cancer.Life isn’t about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.
Joe, thanks for the web link, thats what threw me, therefore the confusion. Isn’t it a beautiful memorial. Ginger
Cheryls I know for a fact Ginger would never mean any harm she is one of the sweetest woman on this site as a Caregiver. I went over to the memorial and I did enjoy the the poems I guess cause I write alot of poetry they were very nice.. Some folks here might not not know how to get to the the site so I will put the link in here and your Moms name Deborah Stevens so people know who to click on when they get there.
http://www.virtual-memorials.com/
My Condolences, Joe
No need to apologize, you are in a vulnerale state and I can understand, my motto is to have lots of “COMPASSION” for the ones dealing with this illness and most of all in death. I lost my father March 25 2004, I came home from Tucson and didn;t get out of my flannels for 2 months, I watched him die at hospice and I like you had a very hard time getting past it. It happens very slowly, look for signs that help you, this site may be what carries you thru. For me I planted a butterfly garden in my backyard and now every spring when it blooms it reminds me of him and his passing but his living again on the other side. Then the butterflys come , all colors and sizes, and it gives me peace, I hope you find this peace I have…it will sustain you!!!Love to you and your family, Ginger
Im very sorry if I hurt your feelings in anyway! Im on a emotional rollercoaster at all times, with very few happy moments, and the few are usually when I am trying to add to that memorial! I just need to still be there for my mom in some way! I relize you were just trying to help, I just had my defenses up and took it in a way that hurt! I dont work on the memorial just for others, I work on it because it helps me and I guess… yes I want people to see her for who she was! I dont want to take away from this site! This site helped my sister alot to understand a few things and I find comfort in knowing theres people out there who understand! I just wanted to share the rest of who she was and is!!! She is loved!!! Again,,, Im very sorry!!!
Cheryls,
You are so right, I visited your moms memorial, this is a great tribute to her, I can see she was dearly loved by all, what wonderful pictures with all the grandchildren,, we can all benefit from the site you have given us, thank you,
GingerCheryls,
I guess I misunderstood your post, I thought you were asking where you could post a memorial about your mom , I never would hurt your feelings on such a sensitive subject, forgive me for not reading it correctly, I was trying to give you direction on where we have a place to also read about your mom and her life. Of course there are many places other than this site to put such issues, I only meant to help, not offend, take care, GingerHi Cheryls,
The other day I did check out the virtual memorial for your Mom, and I was very impressed with how well done it was. I did see it although I was not able to get a post out about it right away. Losing a parent is a biggie – no one here expects you to do any less grieving than you need too. I think Ginger pointed out the memorium section here with good intent…that you could tell your Moms story where others recently diagnosed could really benefit most. I certainly did not get a snooty feel from her post.
I would like to encourage you to also post in the section for those who are dealing with grief and loss – not that we don’t care, but that you might best benefit by sharing directly with those in similar circumstances. Renee seems such a dear soul and somehow finds the right words to help in times like these. I can feel the hugs in her posts when I read them.
I am keeping you in my prayers, wish there was more I could do for you, God Bless, Holly
Cheryl,
Take it easy on yourself…You are welcome here…This will take time…Your mother must have been so wonderful…but she would want you to have a happy life, remember her and honor her memory…the best way to do that is to share her story…before, during, and after the cancer…all of that was your mother…
I pray that you will have peace in the coming days…
Karen
Caregiver for my Wonderful Husband Angelo, who has Metastatic Bladder Cancer.Life isn’t about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.
I relize I must sound very rude, its just their are times I dont know how to go on, and I found a memorial site that helped alittle as was this one and it felt as if that previous response was a insult to the fact that I wanted to share a different site! I know that cancer did take my mommy, and that maybe my story could help someone else, I just need to remeber her b4 the cancer to! She was a loving mother, wife and grandmother, who died way to early! We had so many plans and I dont know how to help her anymore, so maybe thats y its important to me to make a memorial 4 her! Yes part of it is selfish, cause it does help me, those days that I just cant even function enough to get out of bed, I go to that site and this one as well! I read alot of peoples stories and hopefully in time I will be able to share more about the thing that took my mommy, I was just hoping I would still be wellcome as well as her memory!
Cheryl,
Please don’t take it so personally…I am definately going to visit the other site. You are very vulnerable right now…Of course you should look everywhere to find comfort during this time, and different ways to remember your mother…
I totally understand that, as do the others on this site.
Although cancer may take our loved ones…that is not the definition of who they are. But remember that this cancer DID take her, and you shouldn’t miss the opportunity to show others visiting this site and looking in the Memorial Section the devastation that this disease can cause…maybe more research and funding will come this way and we can ultimately find a cure.
I see no reason why you can’t have 2 memorials to her! Show your love wherever and however you want.
I know how much you must miss her…
In my Thoughts,
Karen
Caregiver for my Wonderful Husband Angelo, who has Metastatic Bladder Cancer.Life isn’t about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.
I understand your point of view, and though cancer is the ugly thing that took my mom, it is not the only thing I have to remeber about her! This site is suppose to be a place to express what Your going through and what you went through, and I find people who can help! I was offering people to visit a memorial that helps me, yet the only response I recieve is one in which tells me to make it on this site, that this is the right site to make it at! I guess your loving words are only limited to this site!!! How about a response like, of coarse we will check it out! And of coarse my mother will always be loved, this was just a place that was helping me!!!
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