Believe it or not, it does get better with time, when you have had the opportunity to process everything and deal with the “new normal.” When I was first diagnosed with papillary bladder cancer, my thought was “now I know what I will die of!” And then, six weeks later, the diagnosis was expanded to CIS also.
Yes. I was upset. And then, both my primary care doc and the urologist suggested that I mightbe depressed. That made me very angry…didn’t I have the right to be depressed?
Now almost exactly 8 years have passed since the initial diagnosis. I am alive and healthy. Now on yearly checks….and I do get a bit anxious as the annual exam time nears.
Don’t worry about feeling anxious, etc….. You will adapt to this and will soon be counseling others!
Sara Anne
Diagnosis 2-08 Small papillary TCC; CIS
BCG; BCG maintenance
Vice-President, American Bladder Cancer Society
Forum Moderator
Thank you, Sara Anne and Catherine. My doctor is certainly being thorough and I appreciate that. I guess I was just caught off guard when he wanted my second opinion to be anywhere other than at Dana Farber since we’re just so close to it. I think growing up in the area also has a lot of us Bostonians conditioned into thinking that it’s the only acceptable place for cancer care. I’ll see what comes of all of these upcoming appointments and revisit options then I suppose.
Thank you again, ladies, and I’m glad you all seem to be doing well. I have to ask, how did you all deal with the anxiety? I’m a ball of nerves and my mood swings are exhausting. I find myself crying uncontrollably for hours at a time. And sleeping is next to impossible. I can’t seem to focus on anything other than all of this.
Thank you for your message, Laura. I wish you the best of luck at your appointment in January.
Hello Kam… Welcome to our forum and I am very sorry that you have had to find us under these circumstances, but very glad you are here. We are not medical people, just people who have learned much about bladder cancer by going through it.
My diagnosis in 2010 was primary adenocarcinoma. There was no element of signet ring and the pathology determined that my tumor had originated in the bladder. It is good that your doctor is being thorough in checking for other sources. In the meantime, my advice would be to go for that second opinion, if only to validate the findings of your current urologist. As Sara Anne already mentioned, Mass General in addition to Dana Farber are good options. If it should turn out that you need major surgery, it is important that you are treated by a surgeon who does many of those procedures each year. These are things you can discuss when you have your appointment with the bc specialist in two weeks.
This is a situation where “waiting it out” is not what you want to do. With the tests and scans your doctor has already ordered, your upcoming referral to a specialist, plus the local availability of excellent hospitals, you should be in good hands.
Best wishes… Catherine
TURBT 1/21/10 at age 55
Dx: T2aN0M0 Primary Bladder Adenocarcinoma
Partial Cystectomy 2/25/10
Vanderbilt Medical Center
Nashville, TN
WOW!! You do have a story to tell! It is good that your urologist has scheduled you to see an “expert.” Do you know who this is and where he/she is located? This information would help you to know if you need to seek another second opinion elsewhere.
Signet ring adenocarcinoma is indeed uncommon, but from my reading is not unknown as a primary cancer of the bladder. But since it is rare, you really do need to be seen at a specialty bladder cancer center. And yes, the Boston area has great options. Mass General is a good one.
Wishing you the best
Sara Anne
Diagnosis 2-08 Small papillary TCC; CIS
BCG; BCG maintenance
Vice-President, American Bladder Cancer Society
Forum Moderator
Kam,
I am so sorry you are having this experience. Unfortunately, I am not a person who can give you any advice as I am also new to this forum and currently just trying to get a diagnosis myself. However, that being said, a second opinion may be a good thing in your situation. If there is another doctor or facility near by that you have some confidence in, I would contact them and ask to make arrangements for a second opinion.
I have a biopsy scheduled for Jan 20, (which seems like an eternity to wait) but if that test comes back with a cancer diagnosis, I am most likely going to get a second opinion on what my treatment options are. I just want more than one set of eyes to look at all the information and make a recommendation of a course of action forward.
I am sure some of the more experienced folks on this forum will provide you with their hard earned wisdom soon.
Best of luck to you in this ordeal.
Laura
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