-
My Mom
Good evening, my mom was first diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2015. She went through chemo and her cancer was in remission. It came back on 2022, and she ended up having a hysterectomy. She felt that the cancer was still there, so in October of 2023, she obtained a second opinion and found out that she now had bladder cancer. The chemo treatments began chem again and sent the cancer in remission. In 2024, Doctor West then saw something on her lung performed test and found out there was cancer on her lungs. Doctor West performed the surgery to remove the cells. A few months later she started having issues passing urine. First, she was catharized and had a bag strapped to her leg. Then as the chemo treats seemed to be working, one night a work she had issues passing urine again, so she called the emergency number for the doctor hoping she would be able to see the doctor when she got off work.
Unfortunately, the doctor office didn’t call back until after she was home from work. Later that night she became in pain and went to the local emergency room. After being at the emergency room, the hospital real they were unable to catharize her, so they transported her to the Johnston Willis hospital. Once she was there catharized her then her blood pressure dropped she was sent to the ICU. While in the ICU she began to complain about pain in her knees. Many tests were performed, and the doctor couldn’t figure out why she was still in pain. My aunt then asked if they would test for gout. When the results came back my mom had gout in both knees and retaining a lot of fluid. My mom stayed in the until the beginning of December, where she then was sent to a rehabilitation center to regain her strength and get help with walk. My mom missed chemo session due to being hospitalized, which means the mass grew.
In January of this year, we went in for her to get her session of chemo and when the nurse came back, she stated her hemoglobin was low and she couldn’t have chemo that she needed to get a blood transfusion. So off to the hospital again we go. While in the emergency room, the er doctor performed test and a CT scan. Ortho doctors come in and explain that she has blockage in both her kidneys and will need to have tubes placed in her kidneys to release the urine. Also, explained that they say a spot on her back. We were in the hospital six days. I thought she was doing well she considering everything going on. Then, on February 22 everything changed I believe my mom fell trying to go to the bathroom while no one was home. With me thinking she fell; she fractured her right hip and broke her left arm.
The rescue squad had to transfer her to the hospital. After days of trying to get a bone scan to see if the fracture and broken bone could be replaced, doctors informed my aunt and I that the cancer has spread to her bones and there was a spot on her skull. Still having faith and staying positive as doctors reached out to MCV to find out if they would perform the surgery. On February 28,2025, we were notified that my mom was a candidate for surgery and there was nothing they could do but make her comfortable. Now she had to make a decision on whether or not she would go into a hospice facility or go home on hospice. My mom decided to go home on hospice which she did on March 3. We weren’t told how long she would be on hospice. I came home to care for my mom while on hospice, the first week she was still herself controlling how we move her whether or not she wanted to be change at certain time. That Sunday she was no longer talking, eating or drinking anything. I called the nurse because her breathing changed. The next day the nurse told us she had 48 hours to live. But there my mom came home she said she was going to fight, and she kept fighting. During that weekend we had a scare called the nurse to come and the nurse come over.
The nurse stated it seemed to be near that she would transition. My aunt and I sat up all night as best we could, even telling my mom if she wanted to go, she to go that we would be okay. I believe she knew my son and his girlfriend has a doctor’s appointment a few days later and when my son called me smiling about the ultrasound pictures of his baby, I truly believe then is when she decided she could let go. I went to share the news about my soon to be grandchild and found that my mom had passed away. I was alone in the house something I didn’t want to happen. I had been telling my aunt I was worried about being here alone when my mom passed, and I was alone on that day. I’ve been in my feelings because I feel like it’s a punishment or something. Please pray for me and my family.
-
1 Reply
-
I read your story today. I am sorry for your loss of your mother and the anguishing events. Your mom sounded like a brave hero, so did you and your aunt. My mom was on hospice for a little over a month and I too was alone with her when she passed. I am praying for you and your family right now.
Sign In to reply.