I was diagnosed with invasive BC, grade 4, and my local urologist referred me to Dr. Stein at USC/Norris, who rearranged his surgery schedule (moved some prostate cancer cases--which progress relatively slowly) so they could take me as soon as possible. My bladder definitely had to come out based on the diagnosis, and it made sense because there was no good reason for waiting. There was no vitamin or tea or crystal that was going to make what I had go away, and waiting would only increase the chance of spreading. As it turns out, because I ignored the symptoms so long, it had already spread. As Kurt Vonnegut would say, "So it goes".
My surgery was a year-ago yesterday.
I made a real point of writing my questions in advance and bringing them to my appointments, since I can get distracted easily by the flow of conversation and I didn't want to forget to ask what I felt was important. That really helped a lot, since I had time to compose my thoughts and concerns.
My next visit is August 8th for my one-year follow-up, and I already have some questions written down.
I'm glad you're switching, and I hope your new urologist is someone who can really answer your questions and give you confidence in your situation.