Stacey,
I just don't know what I would do without coffee. But, I can tell that it definitely puts the bladder to work, so I'm guessing that your doctor is right in telling you to avoid caffeine.
Patricia has been reccomending Marshmallow Root Tea for an irritated bladder. I looked for it at our Health Food Store and it was not in stock, but I am definitely going to find some somewhere. According to Patricia it is very restorative to an irritative bladder.
I drink a Lemon Balm tea that seems to really be soothing. I put some local honey in it because local honey is supposed to be a great wound healer.
I do not envy you having to move right now. I hope it is a good move for you.
I'm so glad that you have gotten some answers to your bladder problems.
Thanks for saying that my grandbaby is cute. She lives too far away and I miss her everyday.
Your BC friend always,
Rosemary