Tabio,
Here are some things to read:
my.clevelandclinic.org/services/urinary_reconstruction_and_diversion/hic_urinary_reconstruction_and_diversion.aspx
The link above talks about the different types of diversions.
www.med.umich.edu/1libr/urology/postcare/cystectneobladder.htm
The link above talks about the kinds of things to do/expect after the surgery.
patienteducation.osumc.edu/Documents/IncontinenceExerProg.pdf
The link above talks about the pelvic exercises you can start doing now to better strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which is key to continence if you choose a neobladder. The neobladder is the one most often chosen by men because it is the closest to the original way things work.
Hopefully, these links will address a number of your questions and even some you didn't even know you should ask. We are here to help so ask more and we'll do what we can.
We have been in your shoes and are doing just fine now and we are here to tell you about it. After you get your surgery, we would like you to be here telling other folks about your experience and helping them to see that things are great on this side of the surgery. It's ALWAYS was scarier on the side you are now. Afterward, not so much.
Don't get me wrong. This is a big and serious operation. The first couple of days are really tough. However, it is worth the investment in the rest of your life.
At 69, my 83 year old father in law would say you're just a pup! He had his prostate out about eight years ago. He never had bladder cancer but the prostate is a scary one too. So, let's just forget about that "I've had a good life" talk and change that to "I'm HAVING a good life". Deal?
Mike