Frank,
I second KC's comment about getting a 2nd opinion. I don't even consider as much of a 2nd opinion as I do getting to a "specialist".
Prostate: Tons of specialists and specialty hospitals.
Bladder: Fewer.
If you go to a bladder cancer specialist, he/she will almost certainly also have high expertise in prostate cancer. The same cannot be said for prostate specialists.
It could very well be that "watchful waiting" is the right approach but it is typically recommended to get a reTURBT within about 6 weeks to ensure that there are good margins, that they got it all, and that the pathology is correct.
There are significant cases of understaging that wind up being caught at major bladder cancer centers.
Even if the docs come back and say the same exact thing that your uro is saying, it at least gives you the piece of mind and you can continue going to your local uro for follow up.
Both cancers are different and need to be treated differently.
Best of luck in your treatment.
Mike
Age 54
10/31/06 dx CIS (TisG3) non-invasive (at 47)
9/19/08 TURB/TUIP dx Invasive T2G3
10/8/08 RC neobladder(at 49)
2/15/13 T4G3N3M1 distant metastases(at 53)
9/2013 finished chemo -cancer free again
1/2014 ct scan results....distant mets
2/2014 ct result...spread to liver, kidneys, and lymph...