I live in Michigan, so I can't tell you where to go, but I would seek a second opinion.
I had high grade, poorly differenciated, grade 4, 70% glandular, non invasive cancer. My local Uro wanted to go the BCG route. I chose to go to U of M, Ann Arbor, Michigan for a second opinion. The only way they would guarantee life, was to have a Neobladder. The said my type of cancer was not even receptive to BCG. My father chose The BCG route with the same local Uro, and we burried him two years later. What I learned from his passing, saved my life. That is the ultimate gift!!!
So try to enjoy the holidays, surround yourself with your loved ones. There is nothing you can do, or change things in a week. Get a second opinion, at a Univerisity Hospital or equivalent. Bladder cancer does not mean, the end of life. Even if you got a Neobladder, it would all be behind you, and feeling great after 6 months like me.
Best of luck, God Bless, and Merry Christmas, Jim