Britt, Julie makes a good point, too. Getting the anxiety under control could make a big difference. Having lived with panic attacks for several years, I know how disabling they can be. And it doesn't help that any medication for anxiety makes you feel different, so you worry about the side effects of the medication, and then you are more anxious, and there you go again!
It sounds as if you've got a pretty good idea that this is contributing to your problem.....do you think you have someone who could help you get this under control? My father has problems with anxiety, and he has never been able to stay with any medication long enough to get help, because he always stops after a few days, thinking it either isn't helping or is causing more problems. You need someone who will listen to you, help you monitor and work through the medication issues, and keep you on track with managing the anxieties. Don't give up.
Perhaps a nurse practitioner who works with psych meds, or a board certified psychiatrist who specializes in anxiety disorders might be able to take the time to give you the help you need. When you can move the major anxieties to the back burner, you can work on the smaller problems.
Stephany in Iowa