Marne,
I like your Doctor's attitude calling it a "Happy Cancer". If cancer can be happy, I guess ours would be that. Non-invasive bladder is mostly a nuisance and a life inconvenience than it is a threat. However, if left untreated, then it would be another story.
I know from experience, that it still does not minimize the emotional trauma that the individual goes through dealing with the diagnosis and treatment. My first doctor minimized the whole treatment and made me feel like I was a baby when I got upset or overly concerned. I understand that these doctors see our type quite often and treat patients that are far more serious. But that does not diminish the emotional trauma we experience.
So keep you head high, knowing you have support here and hopefully family and friends. Ensure that you are comfortable with your Urologist and his office. Don’t be ashamed to express your feelings and ask any questions no matter how trivial they may seem. If your doctor doesn’t seem to have time or he scoffs at your questions, then immediately change to another physician. As I stated earlier, we that have this condition realize that in the overall scope of cancer, ours is minimal. But the emotions we experience are no different than any cancer patient.
If you are a person of faith, I would encourage you to pray and to give those things to God that you are unable to handle. He tells us He will lift those burdens from us. And once you turn them over to Him, remember He does not require our assistance. Good luck and my God bless and heal you.
Chuck