Yes, very similar situations, Tim, except you had those G2 and CIS recurrences - I had none, fortunately, which I partly attribute (kinda) to a 2nd TURBT shortly after my first one (the docs thought it was recurrent blc - but it wasn't). Who knows.
My RC was one year after my initial blc diagnosis, and while on the one hand I wish I had had a cystectomy sooner, on the other hand I'm glad I had a dozen BCG treatments, even though the side effects were horrible on the last few (I did like the idea of my immune system being enhanced by BCG).
My sense is that for every cautious doc advocating aggresive treatment (RC), there are 50 docs on the other side. Why? Because there are relatively few urologic surgeons who do RC, most are only qualified to do TURBTs, prescribe BCG... It's like that old adage, if one's tool is a hammer, then every problem presents itself as a nail.
I also have absolutely no regrets about my RC. It's funny, there are so many things in life that I'd like a 'do over', a chance to do something again. But not this. The thought of cancer returning somewhere in my urinary tract is still there, but the thought is quite remote. My peace of mind is an order of magnitiude greater than before my RC, when I was worrying about recurrence and progression, was my blc understaged, would I need chemo, why didn't my first urologic surgeon use mitomycin C after my TURBTs... I was driving myself crazy.
I guess I believe that if one uses statistics and long-term outcomes of patient survival as a primary (though not the only) criteria to judge the 'rightness' or 'wrongness' of a decision to go the bladder-sparing or cystectomy route, then there is a right decision for those with T1G3 + CIS - and the right decision is cystectomy. But there are clearly other criteria to base this decision on, so as we all know, what is right for one of us is not necessarily right for someone else.
I'm yakking too much, time to make some coffee...