Julieann,
I understand where you are coming from...there are so many things that mean "Mom" to you, and you cannot imagine a life without her. I feel similar things about things my husband always took care of...
Mortality is a very complicated issue...you want to save your mom...that is what all the family members on this forum feel...The problem is we cannot change test results, and we cannot make decisions for other people...Live for today...and if you know the serenity prayer, it helps too
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
Have a good cry, know that you are going to have good days and not so good days...Just don't get lost in the bad ones...You mother has good days left regardless of the outcome of tests, or her decisions...Just enjoy her while she is here...That is what all of us should be doing daily, regardless of a cancer diagnosis...
You are in my thoughts,
Karen