Hang in there Red. It does take time and exercises.
One thing to consider at this point is the condom catheter. You hook it up to a night bag and if you leak in the night you don't get wet. Still set your alarm to get up, just pull the hose off the catheter, go like you normally do, then plug it back in when you get back in bed.
If lack of sleep is a big issue from having to wake up to empty, then you might even try not setting your alarm for one night and just sleep through the night. Talk to your doctor about that first though.
I never did get night time continence so I wear a condom catheter every night. I sleep through the night every night which is certainly nice but I wouldn't have done it if I hadn't given up on the idea of getting to night time continence. Not all of us achieve that with the neobladder but high 80's to low 90's percentage do.
The reason for my cautions is that it can be so tempting to just wear and get great sleep every night that it would set people back in their night time continence training.
Mike
Age 54
10/31/06 dx CIS (TisG3) non-invasive (at 47)
9/19/08 TURB/TUIP dx Invasive T2G3
10/8/08 RC neobladder(at 49)
2/15/13 T4G3N3M1 distant metastases(at 53)
9/2013 finished chemo -cancer free again
1/2014 ct scan results....distant mets
2/2014 ct result...spread to liver, kidneys, and lymph...