Bill,
Thank goodness you have followed up on your second opinion and also emailed the doc in Maryland.
It does sound like you have one hurdle after another to jump. I understand why you would be so frusrated, after all the pain, and continual infections and still not quite sure how to best handle this problem. But please don't give up. You are getting closer to a resolution.
I recall when I was extremely annoyed with the doctors earlier on and I was just wanting to distance myself from them; when someone, could have been Pat, reminded me that God made doctors too. Good point. I just needed to ensure I was with the right ones. I knew it wasn't enough to just pray but that He expected me to do my part. And my spouse reminded me that God helps those who help themselves. So push on, my friend. The battle is not an easy one but you are not alone.
I will continue to keep you in my prayers...sounds like Pat and Mike have given you some good advice and I hope you persist in getting the answers to all the questions you have, and hopefully can get some relief so you can enjoy the upcoming holidays. Hugs, Melodie