Bill,
Indiana is good choice. I just wanted to let you know that self catheterization and neobladder are NOT necessarily the same thing. Prior to the surgery, I asked my uro about catheterization and he said "Why in the world would you want to that?". Pretty much said it shouldn't be needed and if it was, to get myself to an ER or urgent care center.
It is different with women. They have a much higher probability of having to self cath.
Also, once your bladder and the all-so-constricting (on the urethra) prostate are out, there isn't anything blocking the way for a catheter if you had to get one done at a hospital. In other words, the part that is painful now will be gone after RC surgery. If it gets to surgery...
If you are getting BCG and you are having problems with the prostatic sphincter, ask your doctor about a TUIP
www.mayoclinic.com/health/tuip/MY00599
or the microwave procedure (TUMPT)
www.mayoclinic.com/health/tumt/MY00607
that can alleviate the symptoms of BPH and give a better opening (less constriction from the prostate on the urethra).
If you are doing BCG, you may want to try to get the procedure after your first series and before you start the maintenance. I had a TUIP, but they discovered I had a recurrence that was invasive so I never found out if it helped or not. Went into RC surgery pdq after that.
I had originally been scheduled for the TUMPT (painless procedure done in the Uro's office but takes 6 weeks to a few months to be truly effective). That's when I had positive cytologies and we started trying to figure out where it was so the prostate issues went on the back burner.
It's probably worth you checking out the procedures and discussing with your uro. I would have done it if I would have been able to continue to BCG.
Mike