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The dark side of the Cancer Card

11 years 11 months ago #9608 by timb
Patricia

lol. you're a bit naughty

tim :)

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11 years 11 months ago #9572 by marigold
I absolutely agree, Patricia. As I wrote above, that was my experience. Recovery came in months, not in weeks. But now, it seems in the far distant past, and life has been good ever since. A friend who had had the same procedure exactly one year earlier advised me that six months had been her healing time, and I found that pretty accurate.

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11 years 11 months ago #9571 by Patricia
I'm still contemplating Tim propped up against a tree in the countryside :D Hint Hint ladies....i'm kidding!!
I remember going into my internists office at about 8 weeks after surgery..totally sleep deprived and very discouraged...He said, "What did they tell you..6 to 8 weeks for recovery?"..i said "Yes"...He said..."Make that 6 to 8 months". I immediately felt better and quit expecting so much of myself...one day at a time...and really he was right on. I continually pushed but was much more realistic about it...The old self came back...the pouch behaved....and life is good. Pat

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11 years 11 months ago #9570 by marigold
Can't help jumping in here to address some of the points raised. My surgery was in August of 2006. Although I made steady progress, I really was as weak as a kitten until the beginning of 2007. Although I made it to the family Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners, I was exhausted after each. It wasn't until February or March of 2007 that I could classify myself as "well" in the sense of engaging in activities without coming home and crashing after doing so. I wasn't "playing the cancer card;" I just took a very long time to bounce back. Even though the doctor told me it would take four to six weeks to recover, it really didn't work that way. So, I would advise caregivers to be aware of these individual differences and to be patient.

It was a glorious day for me when I got rid of all of the bandages, pills, potions, etc. that made my home seem like a hospital. That day came relatively quickly (within two months). I was also thrilled when I could get back to dealing with household chores as my husband was exhausted from his work responsibilities being combined with taking care of me. There were plenty of nights when he was up irrigating, giving me meds, etc. and got very little sleep. Somehow, we got through it and I will be eternally grateful for his kindness and loyalty. It does get better. I would say that, if anything, it made our marriage stronger. If the roles are ever reversed, I will definitely be there for him.

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11 years 11 months ago #9566 by Gene Beane
Joe, so your four months out, Gene is 6 weeks out and the stamina thing is a big issue. One day is a full day but the next two may be not so energized. It seems as if your on a pully and you are getting pushed up and down never quite reaching the top. And for the caregiver your right there as well as you may feel a big day away is coming, then maybe not. Patience I guess, Ginger

Hospital Cleveland Clinic r/c Sept.14,2007
Surgeon. Dr Stephen Campbell and Gill
Gene Beane..66 Ford Motor Company
Engineer, retired Vietnam Vet

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11 years 11 months ago #9553 by Mike
Besides being married for 30 yrs my wife is my best friend. I had a plus cause she is a nurse. But she knows when I say I don't think I can make that dinner with whoever or a family gathering then she knows I am not feeling well. I mean I don't mind a big dish of TLC but my wife has done so much for me I would not take advantage of it by playing the card. All I want now is to really start feeling like my old self and I am 4 months post-op. What I'm saying I feel ok but I am not like my old self stamina wise with that giddy up and go and to me this is frustrating. I guess it's going to take more time then I thought to feel really good but overall I am waking up everyday that's a biggie. Joe ;)

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