Thank you all for your posts. My mom and I have been talking about the nursing care involved with my dad, and I think she will be ok with it now, I think she really just didn't know what to expect. I forget being in the "know" when it comes to medical things that these things can be quite shocking for those that are not familiar.
So, these are my thoughts. I will be there to help with the nursing care as much as I can, I went shopping for supplies, and I'll just try to be there. I have two young children myself, so I can only do so much. I think I just need to be there to support both of them, and to let her know there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Right now, Dad is in a lot of pain, I'm a little concerned about his nursing care he is receiving at the hospital, and they certainly do NOT appreciate any questions from family members...grr. A little knowledge can be a bad thing, and I happen to know what "high creatinine in the abdominal drain" means, and yet they treat me like a child. Nurses in Canada are not a particularly happy bunch right now as our government has really made it difficult for them to do a good job as they have a huge patient load, and crazy hours.
They are not trying very hard to get my dad up and about, I had him up twice yesterday as he is now at least travelling to the bathroom now that his bowels are moving again.
I'm looking into home care, to see what is involved in that, and I'm hoping we will be able to arrange something for a few weeks. I'm going to try and talk to a social worker at the hospital, and also see if I can be involved in the the training at the hospital before he goes home.
I'll keep you updated on his progress!