caregiver needs info for after RC on Monday

Ask the doctor. The average stay could be 10 days to 2 weeks, but ask someone who knows her situation better than we do.

Afterthought--since she's not getting a neobladder it will probably be fewer days, but still, you should ask.

My wife was going to stay every night, but she ended up only staying the first night. So maybe, maybe not. Be flexible. She might need you to stay there. Be prepared to.
Absolutely. And she is going to need someone to stay more than the night. She won't be able to do anything by herself for awhile. She is going to need being taken care of coming out of the hospital like she took care of you when you were born. I couldn't get out of bed for a few days without help. When I made it to a chair I needed help getting out of it. Your mother is going to be very very weak and very very helpless.

Why wouldn't you tell him? That just makes sense that he is totally aware of every facet, whether it seems important to us or not.

If I seem rushed in my reply it's because I'm heading out to dinner and I didn't want you to have to wait hours for an answer.

Second afterthought--she might recover quickly and all that I said could be for naught. Be be prepared to stay and help her.

Best wishes for your mom and you,

Zach

Hello! My mom goes in on Monday for her RC surgery. My brothers and sister are trying to think about what we will need to do after the surgery. Hopefully you can answer a few questions.
1) how long is the average hospital stay?
2) We know we will need to be there round the clock for the first day or so, but what about after that? Should we plan to spend every night with her?
3) My dad is in bad health and can barely tend to himself. When she comes home will we need to spend the night?


Also, we found out something today that she failed to tell us or the doctor. SHe is having to wear a pad because she is leaking urine. Is that of importance? Do we need to let the doctor know or is it just part of it?

Thanks for being here!!!!!