Hi Pat, unfortunaetly my mum cant even turn on a computer! shes 75. I have had a search and found an association in uk not far from where she lives they are going to put her in contact with some other women who have been through same. Shes really depressed and feels like she hasnt got confidence to go out much with stoma bag, not sure what they are called in usa its the bag on outside of stomach that urine goes into. she had her bladder, womb and some lymph nodes nearby removed, they were tested and were clear. It was invasive into bladder msucle but contained in that area. She just need to regain her confidence and meet people who have come through the same and can relate to her situation. thanks for your reply