Fishfreak11,
I am 6 months post radical cystoprostatectomy with an ileal conduit. I went through all the same research and decided that the IC was the best choice for me. I don't have a desk job and I'm moderately active all day climbing ladders and such. I have had no issues with the IC in doing anything I want to do. I have also had no leaks and regularly get 1 week out of each appliance. I spend only about 20 minutes once a week in changing the appliance.
I chose the IC for a few reasons. I didn't want to make a decision that best suited me now at 45 years of age that made life more challenging as I get older. The IC can be maintained by a caregiver if that's where my journey takes me. More importantly, I chose the IC because for me, I saw it as the quickest way to adjust to a new normal and get on with life. I knew, personally, that I would struggle with the mental fortitude to train a neo bladder. 6 months later, I have no regrets.
Stay strong.. You'll beat this. Best of luck to you.
Joe