MoreLife,
Welcome to the forum. People posting here are bladder cancer patients, not doctors; rather than medical advice you will be offered the experiences of patients to consider.
First, here are two links to background material that will provide a basis for the upcoming discussion(s) with your care team. As the team begins to settle on a particular treatment option, you will find more focused information to be helpful.
National Cancer Institute multi-page basics about bladder cancer,
www.cancer.gov/types/bladder
American Cancer Society description of *SOME* possible treatments for the various stages of bladder cancer,
www.cancer.org/cancer/bladder-cancer/treating/by-stage.html
Questions, and COMPLETE answers, are critical for dealing with bladder cancer. You need to fully understand how bladder cancer treatment and surgery can physically change your body and bodily functions, and how changes may impact your daily life. There are options; you want to know about ALL of your options.
Bladder cancer surgery, being major, usually warrants a second opinion.
Important questions may include the following, depending on your situation:
Will your local Urologist be providing full treatment of follow-up services ?
Will you be referred to a bladder cancer specialist for consultation or surgery ?
Has the biopsy material been submitted for a second opinion ?
Does the biopsy material provide a clear margin surrounding the cancer ? Is there any evidence of invasion beyond muscle tissue ? How deep into muscle tissue ?
At each level of consultation, ask about options for treatment and how a particular course of treatment may impact YOUR daily life.
When a recommendation has been offered, ask, "Who is best qualified for this?"
The care team needs to know about you. Spill your guts about your concerns, desires and fears about the cancer journey. The care team needs to be focused on YOUR issues, and to do so they need to hear from you throughout the process.
It is easy to "get lost" in the maze of modern medicine. Ask, and always know, "Who can I call, in a position of authority, 24/7, during treatment when a problem arises."
Hoping this helps you prepare for a treatment discussion,
Best
Jack