Your mother's doctor can, of course, give you the exact answers to your questions. However, it is extremely likely that they will suggest chemo in order to slow down the growth of the cancer and give her some more time with you.
Britain was the birthplace of the Hospice movement, and this is something that you should certainly explore when the time comes. Again, you mother's doctor is the only one who can tell you when this is. From my personal experience here in the US with several family members, I would say that Hospice is the best thing we could have done. So often people tend to wait until the very last minute to seek their help, and so miss out on so much that they offer. Hospice workers were the ones to help us figure out the answers to a lot of the questions you pose as to the "how long" and "what will happen" ones. They are also experts in pain control and are wonderful for making the last days count.
Wishing you all the best
Diagnosis 2-08 Small papillary TCC; CIS
BCG; BCG maintenance
Vice-President, American Bladder Cancer Society
I have been reading this forum for a while. My mother was diagnosed with kidney cancer just under a year ago, she had her kidney removed and was given the all clear. 1 month ago she had blood in her Urine and went for more checks. We have been told she has high grade invasive bladder cancer that has grown from the outside to the inside of the bladder, it has passed completely through the bladder wall. We are awaiting the pathology report to find out more about spreads etc although we have been told it has shown signs of spreading to the urithera. What I would like to know are:
1. I'm not naive enough to know this isn't good, but in terms of life expectancy, what can we expect?
2. They have told us it is incurable and surgery won't be an option, will they still offer chemo?
3. How will we know when the end of her life is getting nearer? What should we expect?
4. Can you offer any hope that this isn't as bad as it sounds?