So sorry to hear about your husband. He is lucky to have you fighting for him!
Whether or not you get a second opinion is sometimes a complicated question. First, where are you located, geographically? It may be that there are other good places closer to where you live.
Second, what are the qualifications of the urologist you are seeing? How much bladder cancer does he treat? Many urologists are very competent in this area....others mostly treat prostate issues and only an occasional bladder cancer patient. This would be a critical question if bladder removal is recommended. If that is the case, you need to be sure that the surgeon does many of these and is very experienced in this. You shouldn't be hesitant to ask these questions.... you wouldn't take your car to a mechanic for a major overhaul if he had never done this, or done very few!!
Normally an oncologist is consulted when chemotherapy is recommended either prior to, or after, bladder removal. They are not experienced in the initial treatment of bladder cancer, as it is usually treated by urologists.
Hope that this helps a little.....
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My husband is 82 and was diagnosed with bladder cancer through TURB...it was golf ball size and it is considered invasive as it penetrated the fatty tissue...Urologist altho still running tests, has suggested he would have to have his bladder removed...there may be other complications which will change the whole process BUT what I am asking is....would you get a 2nd opinion? I have tried to get him into some place like Sloan Kettering but there is no way we could afford it (need a place to stay so I can be with him)they indicate you need a variety of care...dieticians, oncologist, etc and then there is Chemo...my head is spinning as my heart is aching..any advice will