I had my RC in April, 2008. I decided on the ileo conduit because I didn't want to go out of town and my Uro didn't do them. Also, I read about problems with a neo and didn't want to face anything more. Anyway, I was 13 days in the hospital, principally because the damn wound wouldn't heal. I am diabetic and I guess that had something to do with it. I had a terrible time in the hospital with stuff gushing out of my wounds when I got up, et cet.
After I went home I went through 5 months of home and office treatments to close the wound. The wound had tunnelled and it was getting dangerous. Finally, they went in and 'trenched' my abdomen, cutting out all the bad old tunnels. That did it, I healed in 30 days. Got a nasty looking scar for it.
My point is I had a bad time for a long time after the operation. Eventually it all cleared up. All that time I had to get up and go work. Luckily I am self-employed and my hours are light, but it was still a challenge.
So, I think it will eventually be ok for you as well. This is a disability, it's no walk in the park. Life is worth living especially for your loved ones. But it is a different life. I now wish I had a uro bladder, but I can't go back and I live with what I have.
Buck up and best of luck.
Jeff