Mike
This is exactly the same scenerio that I went through. Although I did not have this useful forum to lean on.
After I came out of the anesthetic from my second TURB, my wife sat next to me and said "Would you like to know what the Dr. said?" I was sure he was going to give me the "ALL CLEAR" Boy, was I surprised to hear, "In 5 days we will be Removing your bladder and making a new one!"
In hindsight, it was the best information, but was VERY hard to process. I am sure it is the same with you, right now. But if Mike is assisting you through this then my advice is "LISTEN to HIM" A lot of us have been through this and we have come out the other side better and stronger.
Please feel free to hop in with ALL of your concerns and fears. We have all had them and the people on this forum are great for information and support. Use us as your support group. We all needed someone during this period and this group is about as good as it gets.
We're with you all the way.
George