What can I add to this wonderful thread. We are ALL feeling guilty. I sometimes feel that is the reason I watch this site. I feel so guilty for having gone through the gauntlet and energed alive and "relatively" normal. I look at this site as a way of helping others and coping with, what I call "cancer Lite" Even though I went through 2 surgeries and then Radical Replumbing, I still feel sooooo guilty about how well I have come back.
My wife and I have discussed this Guilt thing quite a bit. I lost a cousin 3 months ago to mealnoma that was only diagnosed a month before her death. She was so concerned about me and my recovery, and then, she was gone. Guilt!
I have been very vocal about my illness, to my friends, and family and to the community. My father has been slightly horrified about my frankness and willingness to talk about something so personal. I guess that is my mission in this cancer thing. (I refuse to use a capital c).
Should we feel guilty about being alive and living a normal life? I hope not. I guess we can serve as an example of hope. An example of caring. And an example of publicity of a very private and personal illness.
I was at a party a few days ago, when a friend came to me and said he had had prostate surgery a year ago and told no one. He is a very high level educator and was having depression related to the illness. He was diagnosed, robotically cured , and sent home. Physically he was fine, but it dragged on him that he had no support group. He came to me and we talked about how this all affected him. We are now a support group for each other.(in secret) But, I keep blabbing the whole story around, hoping to let people know that there is no guilt in this disease. There can be NO Guilt in a WAR. We are surely AT WAR.
Keep Living..... Be an example of hope.... And YES, we will continue to feel guilty.
I attend an Episcapal Church, Raised Roman Catholic. My friend calls it Catholic Lite,...."All the ceremony, None of the Guilt"
I still feel very Guilty... even as I try to tell you not to.
George Kline