R/C\'s,, for us over 60,,,what we face!!!

15 years 7 months ago - 15 years 7 months ago #20507 by Gene Beane
Replied by Gene Beane on topic R/C\'s,, for us over 60,,,what we face!!!
Hello all,
From my stand point I know there are many things that are new to Ginger and I after this surgery. I have become more aware of the fact that I really don't hear much out of my right ear. I am to stubborn to go for any type hearing aide. Both of us have a great outlook on life, she more than me I have to say. If I didn't have her the rockin chair would have claimed me months ago.
Some of us are inclined to let it suck us in on a bad day. I wonder when she will be doing the driving as opposed to me, I see others our age when out for a drive, the wife is driving, its funny but I want her in the passenger seat as long as possible. Its all a change for us seniors. Because of the hearing I am sure she doesn't let me watch the grandchildren by myself, I know she worries I may not hear something, or when driving an ambulance siren coming. The surgery takes us to a different level, she has pushed me back to a full life as it is, I may not feel like working, but once there and happy I am. She has me traveling once again, helped me over the emotional thoughts thinking I can't do this. Maybe have an embarrassing moment.
For 42 yaers we have shared our lives, I don't want it to change much but as seniors we have no choice, it does change. Then some type of cancer gets us and puts a damper on things. In between he visits to the Clinic we have other appt.s , blood work for our zolcor, for me heart appts. for any new blockages,and finally, the DENTIST, the lesser of evils but still a attempt to keep what is ours.
If I didn't have my wife around I would be a sad case, she is my light, and my caregiver, I am lucky to have her. SENIORS MOVE FORWARD, IF NOT TODAY , TOMORROW,,thats my input on it.....Gene

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15 years 7 months ago #20503 by Clara
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I took early retirement at 55 along with a big cut to do so. After I retired, my insurance went up so much that I went on Bob's policy at USAirways.
Well, everyone knows what happened there so I am now on Cobra and if something happens to Bob, I will have to search again until I turn 65. I am 62 now.
The doughnut hole is killing us on the pain med. and we are definitely on a fixed income. Sometimes you just wonder if it is worth it all. My Mom lives on her SS and gets her meds. for $2.+ and $5.+.
I am thankful for what we do have and especially the days together but life is really tough at this time. The economy really has hit everyone, especially those of us on those fixed incomes.

It seems that the rocking chair or glider have really grabbed Bob and I cannot get him out of the house except for dr. visits. Everyone tries to encourage him to just take a ride and we cannot figure out if he just does not feel like it or if the depression is just that bad.

Clara

Caretaker of husband, Bob.
Stage IV
Diagnosed Jan, 2007

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15 years 7 months ago - 15 years 7 months ago #20502 by fearandfight
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I'm not a senior yet but now I say the older I get the younger older people look to me lol.
But seriously I was a trucker for 25 years and due to another medical problem I could not pass the DOT physical to keep driving. This was 7 years ago. I was making over $20 an hour and paid overtime each day after 8 1/2 hours. I had to apply for SSD and I got it within a year and also took the unions disability which is about an 1/8 of the pension I would of gotten if I could have have drove for 4 more years. My wife has hung in with me through thick and thin and that includes what happen with my job because that took a big chunk of change of the income I was bringing in and effected both our lives. There are many other things I tried before I got BC but they are personal and that is how it is going to stay. So I can truly relate with what seniors go through because I am in a similar position myself now. Thank God I have a beautiful wife that saw me through my testing, chemo, and my recovery. I was a hard worker and never in a heartbeat did I ever think I be in this position at age 54. Life throws us many curve balls but this was one was one that I could not dodged. But on the bright side at least I am sitting here typing this because when I went in the hospital I was a very sick man so they tell me and tomorrow the 20th I will celebrate 14 months being cancer free knock on wood. Joe

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15 years 7 months ago - 15 years 7 months ago #20499 by Patricia
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15 years 7 months ago - 15 years 7 months ago #20496 by Gene Beane
R/C\'s,, for us over 60,,,what we face!!! was created by Gene Beane
B/C friends,

For awhile now my husband Gene and I have been talking about how this b/c has changed our lives. The circumstances we face as seniors can be challenging to say the least.
Our concerns that our bodies not being up to snuff to sustain the surgery itself, and be sure after surgery to have an optomistic mind frame. Most of us are faced with living on a fixed income, it varies for most of us. Other issues which may seem less important but necessary to deal with are cholestrol issues, heart issues, osteoporosis issues, cataract surgery, and lastly will we be keeping our teeth...I worried that in recovery we may let the old rockin chair take hold and we would grasp it rather than fight the urge. Your may be to tired to deal with the next day but somewhere you find the strength to get up and go on.
With the issues we face as seniors we have to remember our life doesn't have to be over because of b/c. A positive attitude and the desire to live and not let the chair grab you is most important. Focous on getting back what you had before, get back what you can. Never let the fun you shared in life thats left for a while be far out of site for you...grab it back,
Theres many other issues that face us seniors, share them here if you would like, Gene and I would be glad to hear from the seniors on the forum and there concerns...
I will be posting under my name as of tomorrow, ginger,,,and gene will be posting for himself as he has in the past.
So whats your biggest gripe as a SENIOR,,I am sure we can relate..
Mine is I have to have a colonoscopy on Wednesday!!just another senior thing to do!!!!
Lovingly,
Ginger and Gene

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